Joyce Meyer’s Brother

I was just watching another episode of Joyce Meyer’s, “Enjoying Everyday Life.”  I have to admit it was one of her best sermons. She spent the entire 30 minutes talking about her Brother, David. He was 10 years younger and her only sibling. They were both abused in different ways by their alcoholic father. Joyce’s abuse was devastating and mostly sexual in nature. Their mother had a emotional breakdown when David was 14 and she spent a long time in the hospital.The father worked nights and David was left to fend for himself where he got into drugs and the wrong crowd. He joined the marines at age 17 and was in Vietnam. His Sergeant introduced him to more drugs to help them cope with the horrors of war. David eventually got married and had a son. Then he divorced his wife and ran away. 


  He never paid a cent in child support, spent the rest of his life running away and bed hopping. After years of this downward spiral, he calls Joyce out of the blue and says he wants to come home. So he moves in with Joyce, her husband and their kids and  gets a job at her ministry. He’s tall, good looking with a full head of light brown hair and a mustache. He is seen in photographs standing along side  Joyce’s husband, praying and praising the Lord along with a large crowd. He was now a born again Christian and filled with the Holy Spirit. For the next four years  Joyce tells him to do his laundry and clean up his room, even though the man is in his 40’s. Like any family member that overstays their welcome, he began to stink. Doing nothing but taking up space. Joyce decides it time to show him some tough love. She sets him up in his own apartment, buys him clothes and a new car. Before long a woman moves in with him and he’s back to living in sin. For years he had jobs working under the table where he got paid entirely in cash. He wasn’t in the Social Security system and the government couldn’t  garnish his wages. When he began working for Joyce, the government tracked him down for back child support. He owed $60,000. He hired a lawyer who somehow managed to knock it down to a mere $27,000. But still David wouldn’t pay. Instead, he ran away again. This time with girlfriend in tow and eventually loses touch with reality and goes insane. For 10 years Joyce hears only bits and pieces about him mostly from the girlfriend who keeps calling asking for Joyce to set up a bank account for her brother and financially support him. Joyce refused. It was time for her brother to grow up and start helping himself.

One night the girlfriend calls Joyce and says David desperately needs help. He’s mentally ill, hears voices and believes bugs are crawling all over him on the inside. Joyce sends him to one of those Dream Centers that her ministry supports. They spend 30 days cleaning him up. They find even him a job. But David wants to be sent to a VA hospital where they will take care of him and he doesn’t have to do a thing for the rest of his life. The next time Joyce hears word of him, he’s dead. Died alone in some abandoned building. A homeless man finds his body 30 days later. Joyce doesn’t say what he died of. Could have been a mixture of neglect and substance abuse. They send Joyce his personal effects: a single manilla envelope. It contains his glasses, a dirty watch, some business cards and his ID badge from when he worked for Joyce’s ministry all those years ago. He was 57. By the time the devil got done with him, he had stark white hair and a long, scraggly beard. He looked 75 years old.


35 thoughts on “Joyce Meyer’s Brother

  1. C says:

    I would LOVE to see/hear this sermon. I LOVE Joyce Meyer. Do you know what the title of the sermon was and when it was aired?
    Many Thanks!

    • Hi, I do not remember what was the title of this particular Joyce Meyer sermon. I think the best thing to do would be to visit her website and send them an email.

      The story of her brother and his life was very sad and tragic. Joyce’s life too was incredibly horrible. Her father was a monster. God has done an awesome work in her life and healing.

  2. K. Valentine says:

    Like the writer says it was one of Joyce’s show that touched me right where I live. I too had a family member that went the way of Joyce’s brother. Like Joyce I tried everything I knew how to do but to no avail. In the end my family member passed away from liver & kidney failure. I have wrestled with thoughts that maybe if I had done ‘one more thing’. I guess thats why they call it tough love. It is tough to walk away and stop enabling. It is true, I wanted it for her more than she wanted it for herself. Maybe her brain was so damaged she couldn’t make good choices any longer(?) For the first time since her death I had peace about my decisions. Thank you Joyce

    • Thanks for sharing. Sometimes, no matter how much help is offered they do not accept it or cannot seem to change their life around. In the case of Joyce Meyer’s brother, he did seem to get better for several years, but the addiction and illness was too much and eventually he succumbed to it. Joyce knew she did the right thing by letting him go and not being an enabler anymore. She gave it to God.

      It is interesting that I have never heard Joyce mention anything about her brother during the time they were growing up and she was being abused by the father several times a week for years.

      • violet18 says:

        Joyce is 10 years older than her brother, so her father’s abuse started before her brother was born. When she left home at 18, her brother would have been only 7 or 8.

    • I hate that I’m one of these people. My brain is damaged. I’m always fighting to do better.
      I love Joyce Meyer and I watch
      Enjoying everyday life.
      I’m going to try and get help from an outpatient facility.
      I think being an addict is the worse hand to be delt. Not many who are not addicts understand and want to help like Joyce did.
      It always feels like People that know your struggle, are just waiting for you to fail every time you start doing better.
      I don’t have people in my life that are really on my side.
      If I did, I might have a better chance and a better life.
      So far, God just keeps me going.
      I’m not giving up. ✌

  3. Kerry says:

    It’s on C3-creative church 2011 conference DVD. She spoke at one of the sessions.

  4. Kerry says:

    I’m just watching it now. The conference is called ExC3ed 2011.

  5. Kerry says:

    Search on google:- the power of one life Joyce Meyer

  6. Sam Evans says:

    I saw this yesterday and the part I could not believe is when Joyces brother actually said the he was “very disapointed in how she had treated him”. I’ve met and tried to help people like this. Luckly they were people I had ran into in my life and not a family member. Still some people are truly amazing. You can literally do everything for them and it’s never enough and they never change.

  7. Cathy says:

    She probably didn’t talk about him because it was too painful. I don’t think there’s anything more painful than watching someone you love slowly destroy themselves. Cathy

  8. Thank-you very much for what you shared. There are two people in my life like that. One a friend and one a family member. Both I gave my all to and pointing to God and it has sucked the life out of me and it still was not enough and no fruit has come of it. One I have cut myself off from just resently and the other (the family member) who has ripped up my soul because everything has to be all about her no matter what I have already done for her. I am yet to make that break from her. God is now in the process of healing me, bringing me scriptures early in the morning. I have put Him first again in my life. When you said you wanted it more for her(your family member) than she wanted it for herself, that rung true for me. It instantly helped me know I have done to the right thing, by having new boundries. God bless you, Christine

  9. sya says:

    My father was a monster too. 2 siblings ,1 happily married ,1 HIV + and hardly has any common sense left and iam…well, looking to settle down with boyfriend. Our father now? Dead. Our mother ? Never knew her.
    Honestly ? Can god get here already or even better kill me in my sleep.

    • sbnghumalo, Thanks for commenting and please hang in there. God does exist and He really does care. I am married to a survivor of rape and an alcoholic father who recently passed away. He found Jesus and so did my wife. Life can get better. I am praying for you that your wounds heal with time and the help of the Lord.

    • Ben says:

      Wow! So sorry to hear about your suffering. This is why today’s church needs to be clothed with power. All the mess & trauma can completely be reversed via deliverance ministry! Of course each person has to be willing to be delivered so personal responsibility has a role to play. However,as a church, we need to look at the bondages have & the pain they cause is primarily its source is demonic…& both the victimizer (many times are unwilling to change especially if they have given their will to the devil)& victimized need bondage breaking healing glory fall on them. My sister your father should have been your protector in every sense spiritual, in soul & physically. I cant even imagine how traumatic it is for you, however I would say to you don’t walk to God RUN to him. Immerse yourself in our Lord Jesus pray to him to deliver you from all the traumatic experiences. The devil is seeking to destroy you, that’s why you are wishing death. Be of good courage remember elajaha reached to that level as well, but God can turn any situation around. After you persue God vigorously in worship reading the word & prayer…you might as well find yourself regaining your joy & living in peace. I would encourage you to pray or have anointed people of God pray over you for the babtizm of the Holy Spirit. If you are not already filled up, if you are filled with the Holy Spirit then pray to be rebabtized & pray forore of the glory of God in/ & on your life. Remember ALL THINGS are possible WITH God, fight your battles WITH God along side you, YOU will & are a winner. I pray that the glory of God of Abraham, Issac & Jacob would fall upon you in the MIGHTY name of Jesus! Christ. I seal & cover you by the blood of Jesus! I destroy all wicked plans of the enemy over your life, in the MIGHTY name of JESUS! Be filled with the POWER of God to overflow in Jesus name Amen! Bless you all.
      Pls watch HIV healing on YouTube search ” TB Joshua HIV healing”

  10. Lauren says:

    I grew up in a verbally abuse house hold. My Father was the one who verbally abused us. My mother was silent. They are still married (over 50 years now). God does heal us! God DOES DO amazing things. Sometimes it can take years before God answers prayers. Sometimes God never answers our prayers. Eventually, we get a transfusion of hope, love and peace, by the blood of Jesus Christ. He can, and He does, change our circumstances. He can give us a divine transfusion of comfort, peace and love. BELIEVE that HE IS WITH YOU. God is here, with you and INSIDE of you. Forgiving and loving those who have hurt us deeply or hurt great pain in our life is the beginning of healing. It is also the beginning of connecting on a deeper level with the Lord. “This is the day that the Lord has made, let us be glad and rejoice” in our today. We cannot change our past. However, we can change our future with God’s help.

  11. Lauren says:

    Correction-Addendum to my original comment/post:
    “I grew up in a VERBALLY abusive house hold.”
    “FORGIVENESS and loving those who have us deeply or CAUSED great pain in our life……” (etc.) – Thank you

  12. TVN says:

    Do you think he is in heaven or has he lost his salvation ? Seemed like by the mercy of God he got help and had many opportunities to get right with God but chose his own way and yield to the devil in the end.

    • It really isn’t for any of us to judge whether a person is saved or not. That’s between them and God. However, I would like to believe that God knew Joyce’s brother was in very bad shape mentally and emotionally. Perhaps in God’s wisdom and mercy He has allowed this man to enter heaven.

      I once heard Jimmy Swaggart say concerning some Christians who have committed suicide, that God, knowing they were not in their right minds at the time, will not allow such tortured souls to lose their salvation.

      • Claire says:

        Thank you for sharing the Jimmy Swaggart quote. My Mother commited suicide. The Pastor at her wake said death does not have the final say, God does. That has always been comforting to me.
        God bless.

  13. Jan says:

    Read the parable of the rich man and Lazarus and compare with JM’s message about her brother. What about the conclusion she draws that, at the end of your life, your value depends on your material possessions (personal effects)? What about the paralyzed man…… He was PARALYZED ! Get it …he couldn’t move!
    If you don’t see something REALLY wrong here…..well.

    • Thank you for commenting. You mentioned a paralyzed man, yet I’m not sure I get what you were trying to say nor which man you were referring to. The New Testament mentions several men who were lame. I hope you will write again and elaborate.

      As for Lazarus and the rich man (Luke 16) The fact that Luke names this beggar is important. He well could have believed in God. Lazarus did not make it to paradise because he was poor, but because he was humbled, even in the midst of much suffering. Something the rich man, who is not named, never was. He lived in luxury and comfort. I believe he represents a lot of people today. Not the fact that he was wealthy, but he loved money. No doubt he was prideful and selfish. Anyone who can ignore a starving person outside their home is hardhearted. That’s not a child of God. Yet how many of us ignore the homeless? Jesus said: whatsoever you do to the least of my brothers, that you do unto Me.

      I don’t believe that Joyce was saying her brother was worth less as a human being because he died penniless. Her point was that he had wasted his life. He had the same opportunities Joyce had, yet squandered it all. He became a born again Christian and served God. (Joyce gave him a job in her ministry) But as with most everything else in his life, he walked away from it. The one thing he never abandoned were his addictions which ended up killing him.

    • Vickey G. says:

      I Felt Sorry For Joyce’s Brother, An Emotionally Wounded Marine. There Is No Justification For Letting Him Die Homeless. He Seemed To Need Less Tough Love And More Christian Mercy At The End. Only GOD is Qualified To Judge David.

  14. Elidia says:

    This is sad. Tragic. No one can possibly understand an addiction until they’ve been through it. I got off of crack cocaine, one of the deadliest drugs and have been clean 2 years ONLY by the grace of God.

  15. Rene Girrard says:

    Man Christians on the internet are nuts!

    • Ben says:

      There is Hell & Heaven Rene Girrard…Don’t your decision to ignore God during your earthly , at most misely 100 years, ROB you of eternal bliss & Heaven. Can’t imagine the regret of a soul that’s thrown into Hell eternally! What if the Bible is true Rene Girrard, what if He’ll is real ? Do you have a plan? …what if…

  16. Ben says:

    I love Joyce but she should not have dragged her brothers name in the mud despite his failures. Also please don’t measure your success by how big your ministry is & square ft of your headquarters! It was very un- Christ like to mercilessly beat up,despise and expose her brother’s one mannela envelope contents with such disgust! & comparing it to her achievements. What in the name of…..are you thinking? That is very prideful attitude…even if thoughts of her great SUCCESS crossed her mind she should say I have done this by the grace of God …but to despise & humiliate her brothers name like that was very shameful & does not represent Christ’s attitude. Jesus praised the lady that gave 2 cents…more than the don’t know what Joyce ‘ s brother heart discussions with God were…Eitherway he should have been treated with lots of Mercy since he is dead there is no reason to expose & destroy his name as she did. While he was alive I would not have been mad at her if she used tough love on him, but she could have made her point & teach her message without being so arrogantly prideful about her achievements….& without dragging her brothers name through the mud. I am sure she has failures should I make a cermon out of her failures,naming her by name! That would be sick…..ALL I GOT to say is I don’t know what in the world she was thinking….writing books & member # has puffed her up? Well there was a king who felt like he was God…but then THE REAL God made him eat grass like an animal, which quickly tought the king a lesson. May be she is above all Christians now & almost like God I guess…sitting on her throne of judgment…..REPENT Joyce, that cermon was very harsh unkind destroyed your brothers honor( despite his failures) he deserved dignity of his name not to being despised & THEN broadcasted worldwide in such manner….gees she needs wise advisers…& she needs to humble herself as pride comes before fall. I have never seen Joyce make such a big mistake…all her cermons that I have HEARD are awesome & not offensive. she should apologize& say I wrote this cermon while I was very mad at my brother..& should not have dishonored my brothers name INTERNATIONALLY. Poor guy I feel bad for him….OK I am done nothing else to say but shake my head.

    • Shawndell Preatto says:

      What she did is called a Testimony…. The devil wants you to hide his tactics of destruction. Her honor and alligency is to God and to love the ppl of God and warn them of self destruction and repercussions of rebellion to God.

  17. Trina says:

    I hope Joyce reads this. She should be partly to blame for her brothers outcome…It takes time to help family members get there lives together when they are that low…I’m speaking from experience…there is the right time to get them going on there own…and it’s not like she didn’t have the means to get him the help he needed..she acts like she so smart…then if so…Obviously she didn’t love him much ..basically when she through him out to the wolves she gave up!

    • Shawndell Preatto says:

      That’s not true…. she reached out to her brother and did what she could possibly do. Everyone has a cross to bear (responsible for self).

  18. Shawndell Preatto says:

    The devil comes to steal kill and destroy.
    I’ve lost my sister to substance abuse believe it caused a heart attack in June of this year. I’ve still been trying to cope with her death( only sibling also and 10 yrs a part, she’s the oldest).
    Thank God for your strength and steadfastness in the word of God, reading your story is an encouragement to me as well as others that has experience such. God bless❤️

  19. Kathy pichey says:

    I used to send your ministry money you let your brother die like a dog i wont ever support your rich indulgent self again and quite talking about your abuse sick of it

  20. Joyce’s brother was a runaway his whole adult life. He ran away to join the armed forces as soon as he could. He ran away from his wife I don’t know how many times. After living with Joyce and Dave for a good while and working in her ministry, he ran away from all that. He used alcohol as means of escape, and even ran away from a rehab facility. He was obviously a very troubled and sick man.

    There is no way to stop a run away train. He alone was responsible for his life.

    One good thing happened though. He did get born again.

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